Millenials, grown up in the world of dating applications, instant messengers, and unlimited social connections, treat romantic relationships differently than other generations. Although understanding between the genders has never been perfect, those who were born in the late 20th century face their unique challenges. Most of them are related to the development of technologies, which have influenced the interaction between people. Here are a few problems in the relationships that millennials most often face.
1. Different goals
Millenials have several times more possibilities than previous generations. Not only the material world but also social attitudes keep changing. Self-development, a successful career, following one’s desires is encouraged much more than the desire for a family and stability. Couples do not have to live together or marry at once, each person determines their priorities.
Of course, there have always been individualists in society, but there are many more among millennials. A variety of choices is good for a single person, but not very nice for a couple. How can you make common plans when one dreams of becoming a nanny for a panda in China, and the other – of working on Physics innovations in Switzerland.
2. Jealousy about social network behavior
The betrayal in the form of likes or compliments to an unknown pretty girl already has its own term – “micro-cheating”. In life, they have not even met, but it hurts as if you accidentally saw him kissing a colleague on the cheek as a goodbye. No matter how much you keep saying that virtual and real lives have little in common, social networks are still another platform for relationship evaluation. Psychologists advise against making far-reaching conclusions on your partner’s online behavior, but the Internet keeps giving new reasons for conflict, one way or another.
3. Ignoring the partner
This problem concerns not only a relationship but any verbal communication today – we are constantly distracted by our phones. It is a deeply rooted behavioral pattern, which often insults our partners. In order to somehow regulate phone dependence, psychologist Matthew Matsler advises you to negotiate with a partner that you’ll keep your smartphones in your pocket or bag at a certain time.
4. Sharing the details of relationships in social networks
Social networks blur the line between the personal and the public. Some people share private information about their partner. In the past, relationships used to be no secret either – they were discussed when meeting with friends, acquaintances or relatives. The problem is that now it is easier for the partner to know what you are saying about them. In addition, the facts told or photos shared are available to a wide audience.
5. It’s easier to cheat
Cheating is not a new problem in a relationship, the Internet has created other ways to deceive. Making an affair is much easier with the help of social networks, applications, and dating sites. Besides, the temptation is always at hand – in the newsfeed.
6. Difficulties in communication
Since millennials often discuss problems with a partner using instant messengers, this creates additional difficulties for understanding. Text and smilies cannot convey everything. In solving serious conflicts, it is important to read the interlocutor’s emotions. Young people share a ton of information on social networks, but they do not know how to express their needs and desires in a live conversation. Reporting unpleasant news in absentia is much easier, but the most difficult conversations should always happen face to face.
The digital age has influenced how we interact with people, create relationships and perceive life. However, this text is not about the fact that people are doomed to becoming zombies with phones, incapable of communication. In the life of the millennials, there are certain advantages: they are less prone to promiscuous sexual intercourse, and those who get acquainted with dating apps create stronger couples. Realizing the problems that the new time brings, we can easily cope with them and build more successful relationships.