Communication in a marriage is far more than just an interchange of everyday routine information. From an impersonal bandying of words, it becomes a vessel of feeling, loyalty, and respect, requiring a talent for avoiding squabbles and supporting when it’s necessary. Quality communication can make your union more intimate and durable.
Consequently, you could always do with more advice on how to make your conversation better – and enjoy the results as you feel your bond strengthening due to improved communication. Here are some tips for this goal.
Hear your partner out before you respond
We don’t always give our partner an opportunity to say everything they want to before we cut in with our remarks – especially if the conversation has gotten rather heated. Never respond before you are sure that you know exactly what they mean, or you will lead the conversation into a dead end.
When you disagree don’t get excited
As a serious conversation begins to give grounds for dissension, it may turn into a repulsive scene which you will regret later. Instead of bringing in past arguments and misdeeds, keep to the topic and stay as calm as you can. In order to avoid anger, you can agree on a pause to give both of you time to cool down and reconsider your approach to the discordant topic.
Lose your ground with good grace
Of course, all of us feel that we are right in an argument and therefore we have to win over our partner! That means that instead of weighing arguments justly we often indulge in a sort of a competition that is meant to bring us to victory. This is bad communication that is not compatible with a satisfying and strong relationship.
It would be far better if you two could swallow your pride and meet each other halfway. Then, a good idea would be to apologize for getting too heated in any case so as to soften things up. Do your best to break the strain, and it will be your best victory as you make your relationship more amicable.
Be open about what you feel
Actually, it is one of the main reasons for communication, and though there are people to whom it doesn’t come naturally (because their parents didn’t do it often enough), we all should try to open up with our partner since it keeps your relationships honest.
When you begin with “you make me feel” you make it sound as if your partner were responsible for your emotions; even if you believe they are, say “I feel” to show that you also take responsibility for your feelings.
Sure enough, it requires certain fortitude, especially in cases when the relationship has grown argumentative and strained; but you know that things will be deteriorating if you don’t try to mend them now. You have to regain the lost trust that saves relationships through quarrels, and this work should be undertaken by both of you. You must feel that you can be vulnerable with your partner.
Speaking about your feelings instead of blaming others for your condition takes you to a necessary level of honesty that might alleviate the discord and help heal emotional wounds.
Enjoy life together
Fun and games are essential for a lasting relationship. You don’t need to have the same hobbies and pursuits, just let them furnish reasons for doing things together and have fun, and you will find your bond grows stronger and your intimacy deepens. You begin to have more topics for discussion, you compare your impressions, enhancing communication and thereby moving closer to each other.
Even these simple bits of advice can take you miles into the realm of intimacy and better appreciation of your partner as a friend and a person it is fun to be with. Discover the pleasures and benefits of quality communication and see how much more colorful and effervescent it can make your life together. Go for closer intimacy and deeper trust in your relationship.