Regardless of how long your relationship with your partner lasts, there are several important aspects that will help you get even closer and feel that you are really “on the same page.” Otherwise, you will face an inevitable parting and will have to start another search for a suitable man. Below you can read about the emotional needs that you should pay attention to in a relationship.
A sense of security and trust
Every person wants to feel safe next to their partner. It is very important to protect your feelings (and the feelings of your loved ones), support each other, and, of course, trust the person rather than test your partner on any occasion. After all, few people want to continue the relationship in which they feel uncomfortable or which humiliates them in one way or another.
An ability not to report all your actions
Total control has never brought any good to anyone. Therefore, no matter how jealous of your partner you are, just remember that he has chosen you among many candidates and give him a little more freedom. Otherwise, at some point, your partner will get tired of the fact that he needs to report almost every minute of his life to you, and he may find the one who makes things much easier and more comfortable for him.
The feeling that you are heard and understood
It may seem easy to listen to your partner and, if he needs it, give valuable advice or provide possible help. However, according to psychologists, a great many of married couples turn to them with this problem. They claim that their partner does not understand them and, what is even sadder, does not even want to listen to their problems or experiences. Therefore, you should try to give your partner a chance to speak out and show that you are really interested in what is happening in his life (apart from you, of course). Then your partner will also begin to show greater interest in everything that happens to you.
The ability to communicate with anyone you want
Another emotional need is to choose a social circle depending on your interests, and not the one that your partner imposes on you. Surely, you’ve also come across the fact that at a certain point you start being told that you are surrounded by unworthy people, so it’s a bad idea to keep in touch with them. As if by chance, your partner says that his or her friends are worthier to be your friends. Although it is not an ultimatum, you can lose your own friends in the blink of an eye, choosing your partner’s pals over them.
Psychologists, by the way, remind that you shouldn’t completely merge with your partner’s life. Otherwise, he will quickly lose interest and find a replacement. Therefore, as soon as you understand that he or she starts telling you who you can be friends with, try to explain calmly but confidently that you have your own interests, and they do not interfere with your relationship (on the contrary, they make it even more interesting).
The ability to develop and improve
Having received a marriage certificate, many women immediately agree to their husband’s idea about quitting their job (hobbies and so on) and fully devote themselves to maintaining home comfort. At the very beginning of the relationship, they provide moral support to their spouse, who has abandoned some perspectives for their sake. Over time, however, they get annoyed at the mere fact that they “are breadwinners in the family, while she is constantly at home”. Alas, they lose all interest in their soulmate. Therefore, do not give up your own plans for the sake of others and get engaged in self-development.
The feeling of intimacy and passion
Every woman wants to feel desired and understand that she is still interesting to the partner. If the feeling of intimacy suddenly disappears, the intimate life becomes miserable, you increasingly look around. This points to your relationship being doomed. To prevent this from happening, try to surprise your partner as often as possible, organize unexpected romantic situations for him and confess your feelings.
After all, women love with their ears, and if they do not hear compliments from their loved one, they will look for love on the side (of course, this is about flirting rather than cheating). Therefore, men should flirt with their wife more often and let her understand that she is the one and only in their life.
The same is true about ladies. If they constantly criticize their beloved man without mentioning that he is still the most beloved and desired, it is not surprising that one day he will simply pack his things and leave forever.
A sense of value and importance
As soon as partners are no longer proud of each other’s achievements (no matter how significant they are for others), this may indicate coldness and indifference in the relationship. After all, a loving person is impressed by everything that the soulmate is doing and is ready to tell others about it. Therefore, do not forget to remind your partner that you appreciate him and be proud of his merits. Believe that it really matters to him.