Although many women are in no hurry to marry, they still have to take into consideration the stereotypes imposed by society. We decided to find out why it is not shameful to be single in our time and how to build our life in the “single” format.
“My earnings are only mine”
It may seem that two people feel more secure (including the financial aspect), but this is not entirely true. According to experts, single people manage their budget more responsibly and do not waste money. At the same time, they manage their funds the way they like and do not have to report about spending each dollar.
They do not fall into debt pits, spending exactly as much as they can afford (rather than as much as the secure family life dictates). According to studies, couples are more likely to waste their money and are less confident that they will be able to secure a decent future for themselves.
“I owe nothing! I owe no one!”
The women, who are not in a relationship at the moment, do not need to adapt to anyone and do not have to prove anything. They can act as they want, not thinking whether their behavior will hurt the partner or not. In addition, they will not overstrain themselves to please others, but will remain faithful to their principles and views.
“I don’t see anything wrong about staying late at work”
The women, who prefer life in a single format, achieve more impressive results at work than married women, who drop out of the working rhythm from time to time, devoting themselves entirely to solving family problems. Single women can easily work extra hours in the office. If necessary, they take a part of their work home in order to finalize everything right on time, and completely immerse themselves in the process to better understand the issue.
Psychologists say that “loners” do not need to spend their energy on secondary issues, and, therefore, they can calmly focus on their responsibilities in order to achieve the best results (not only for themselves, but for the company in general). Such an attitude does not go unnoticed by the management, which helps particularly active employees to build their career faster.
“I eat what I want and when I want”
It may seem that if you love a partner, you accept his/her eating habits, but this is theory. In real life, things are not so cheerful. Many admitted that they had to adapt to their partner, changing taste preferences. Suppose the chosen one prefers to eat exclusively plant foods, and you do not see anything wrong with eating meat from time to time. A woman often has to revise her habits so as not to hurt the psyche of her beloved one.
Individuals do not have such problems – they eat the food they are used to, changing their diet only if they want to. They don’t have to spend all their free time in the kitchen, thinking about what culinary masterpiece to come up with today. They can easily get along with a light diet meal or even have a bite somewhere on the way home.
“Healthy sleep and lack of stress”
“What about embracing the partner and falling asleep together?” This is how married women may object, but psychologists have something to say. It turned out that the quality of sleep of those who are not in a relationship is much better than of those who have to regularly share the bed with a partner.
You must admit, no matter how greatly you fall in love, that there is an absolute magic about being the sovereign of your bed or the sole proprietor of your blanket, as well as about the absence of annoying sounds like snoring. There is something that makes you think about separate bedrooms. Many couples, by the way, do that.
“To Bali? Why not!”
Those who are not burdened with a relationship find it much easier to travel the world because they can “catch” a burning offer and quickly respond to it, instead of coordinating their actions with the partner and adjusting to his vacation schedule.
They can go to any country for the weekend and spend a few days as they please (rather than hearing, for example, that museums are boring and beaches are primarily for loafers).
“Who said sex on the first date is a taboo?”
Experts say that single women have a much better social and sexual life. For them, quantity is in the background, giving way to quality. They can decide for themselves when they will have intimacy with a partner – on the first date or some other time, after a period of dating. They can flirt with several gentlemen at the same time, without expecting someone to blame them for such behavior.
“Home SPA instead of cleaning”
Instead of doing routine chores and spending time cleaning, women can afford to arrange home spa treatments. As for making the apartment clean and tidy, they can do it whenever there is a will. In addition, studies show that single women need much less time to clean the apartment – unlike family people (to say nothing about families with children), they do not spend much time at home to make a real mess there.
“I can bring some friends and throw a party”
Another invaluable advantage of single women is the ability to plan their time without adapting to the partner. They can go to the office in the morning, drop in to coffee at their favorite cafe during the day, and go to a party in the evening and stay there till the very morning.
“I’m used to relying only on myself”
Loneliness, according to psychologists, motivates and gives people emotional stability. They get used to dealing with their problems on their own, realizing that there is no way to wait for help. They rarely have something out of control because they know in advance what they will do in a given situation and what decision they will make one time or another.