These are forbidden tricks. Do not demand this from your man, if you do not want your relationship to go bad. Note that men should not voice the same demands to women. It is logical and natural to defend your interests and say that you are not comfortable in a relationship. But it’s still not worth crossing some red lines, if you want to maintain trust and respect for each other.
“You must be my friend”
Firstly, no one owes anything to anyone. Secondly, if he wanted to be your friend, you would not sleep in the same bed. Thirdly, a man – no matter how understanding he is – is not your best friend. Of course, he will always be there, will listen to you and help you in difficult times. Yet, it is not his cup of tea to listen to your endless whining about having nothing to wear, being bored with everything, suffering from a stupid boss. Even the best friend will not be able to endure long lamentations, why should a man do this?
“Stop looking at women!”
Don’t you look at other men? For example, in the gym or in a cafe, where a stranger of a pleasant appearance is seated at the neighboring table.
If you are in a relationship, this does not mean that the interest in the opposite sex, so typical of the human nature, has died in you. In addition, watching is allowed even in museums. Unlike asking for a phone number and trying to arrange dates. This is way more than one can afford.
“Do not communicate with your friends”
Why, in fact, should he abandon his loved ones for you? If you do not like them – this is not an argument. You do not have to communicate with them, but you have no right to prohibit his communication with them. You need brunches with friends on weekends, so he also needs Friday gatherings with friends in the bar. All is fair.
“Your mother is not visiting us anymore”
The worst thing to imagine is a war with the mother-in-law (a potential or an already real one). If she is omnipresent in your relationship, just calmly discuss it with him and find a compromise. You can meet in the neutral territory.
If you just don’t like her, take it as a fact. It happens. Explain to the man that you do not have warm feelings for his mother, but still respect her. He will understand why you do not seek to communicate with her and will not insist.
“I will not have sex with you until you …”
This “motivation” can hardly help you achieve anything. To begin with, men are not so primitive as to be controlled with access to the body. In addition, this behavior is very reminiscent of blackmailing (it is unpleasant and dishonest) or a barter: you do me a favor or a service, and I will grant you with my body. Sounds weird, doesn’t it?