According to statistics, cheating occurs from time to time in every second couple. This allowed scientists to determine the psychology of adultery. It turned out that everybody cheats for the same reasons.
The most common causes of cheating
Searching for what a regular partner cannot give
It happens that a couple is absolutely happy: people are comfortable, amused and interesting to one another. Yet, one partner does not satisfy the sexual needs of the other partner. In this case, many people are looking for the missing pleasure in someone else’s bed.
Thirst for diversity
Even the most prosperous life in the “work-home-work” system is trite and boring. Out-of-wedlock sexual affairs are an adventure and a bright flash that temporarily takes the person away from the routine and pleasantly tickles the nerves.
In addition, the nature of a human being is characterized by the thirst for the new. In a relationship, the script of love pleasures inevitably becomes standard over time. Having learned every centimeter of the body of your constant partner and having revealed all the erotic secrets, we feel bored and strive to have fun.
Stress
Sex is not only physical, but also psychological relaxation. Therefore, sometimes non-binding sex affairs are just a way to escape from everyday chores at least for an hour, forget about everyone (including the closest ones, associated with most of the domestic problems), and get the things off your chest.
Emotional discomfort
This is when people cheat with the soul rather than with the body. Attention and care are equally wanted by the representatives of both sexes. In steady relationships, these moments are often reduced to nothing. Men forget to give flowers and compliments. Women cease to admire their beloved one, noticing his mistakes more often than merits. In the end, we are looking for those who compensate for the lack of affection and remind us how good we are.
Revenge
Many cheat because they are offended by a partner and are eager to take revenge. Such people are divided into two types. Some want to hurt – that is, they do not conceal the fact of cheating. For others, it is enough to remain silent about adultery and chuckle to themselves.
Sports interest
Many of us had a school friend who used to steal chewing gums in stores. Not because they had no money, but because “it’s so interesting.” The same thing happens in a relationship: cheating makes us feel “the drive” and get aware of our own success in love. In fact, “sports interest” is just a problem with self-esteem.
Alcohol
Alcohol comes together with other products that bring people “joy”, liberate, make them playful and make them lose control. A couple of shots at the corporate party can turn even the most quiet and shy programmer into a predator “seeking his prey” and flirting with a beautiful manager, whom he would be afraid to even look at, when sober.
At what age do people cheat most often
Recent studies at New York and California Universities have shown that people are twice as likely to be unfaithful when they reach the “age limit”.
Psychologists have explained it this way. When a person turns 29, 39, 49, etc. years, he realizes that he/she is moving to a new stage in life. It scares many. As a result, the “transitional” period becomes similar to a midlife crisis. It turns into one big doubt, a reassessment of achievements, self-doubt and the search for a life path.
Lovers help many people hush down the alarm. Indeed, the interest from the opposite sex has always been an indicator of our attractiveness, sexuality and success.