You might have a rather impressive list of foolish things you have done in life, which you either regret about or prefer not to recall, no matter how hard it is. Geniusbeauty.com talked to psychologists and found out what things a wise woman would never do not to bite her elbows later and not to regret the missed opportunities.
Enter the university that parents have chosen
The worst thing you can expect after graduation is an unnecessary diploma and lack of prospect for interesting work and the realization of your creative potential.
For example, many parents consider that their girl should necessarily enter a philological (pedagogical, social, historical, literary, etc.) department because it is suitable for a female mentality, while other areas are useless for a lady. Wise women clearly know what they want and are not afraid to set global goals. Therefore, they choose the fields in which they would like to develop: business, politics, IT, architecture and other “male” areas, as many amateurs would say.
If you want to realize your potential, you should clearly define which way you would be interested to move. Do not listen to those who will tell you that it will not work (these people themselves have not achieved anything in life and want you to suffer from the same problem).
Get a job that you do not like, even if it brings money
This item is derived from the previous one. Having received a “pro forma” diploma for their parents’ satisfaction, many women take a job in their field of study without receiving any pleasure from the process itself. In other words, they perform their duties only because they pay for it and not because they want to come up with something brilliant that will improve the life of the company and their own life.
They do not pursue a career and dream only about peace at the workplace. They want to be given an opportunity to go home on time (or even a little earlier) rather than stay regularly in the office.
Wise women are focused primarily on achieving certain career heights and appear in the office not because it is necessary but because they generate new ideas and prove to themselves every day that they are capable of accomplishing a lot. For them, there is nothing wrong about staying after work, if it gives a certain result or bonus at the end of the month.
To marry a “reliable” man rather than a beloved one
The worst thing one can do is to give advice in love affairs, but no matter how accurate your calculation is when entering a marriage with a “reliable” person, remember that feelings cannot be discarded. After all, sooner or later material prosperity will bore you and you will want to experience the love that gives you wings behind your back and an incentive for great feats. If such feelings for a “reliable” husband do not arise during the marriage, there will be a disappointment, constant quarrels and, eventually, divorce and division of jointly acquired property.
Wise women do not go against their feelings and do not lose their head either, no matter how passionate their romance is. Remember that you should not tolerate an unloved person just because you are already 40-45-50 years old and you are afraid that you will not be needed by anyone and will stay alone. It is much worse if you, because of your fears, are unhappy in a relationship and make the partner’s life unbearable.
Get into debt
Of course, at least once in a lifetime each of you addressed credit institutions in order to receive additional funds (for the purchase of an apartment or a car, for repairs, for a dream vacation, etc.) But here’s a paradox: if people do not know how to properly manage money, they very soon get into debt.
In order to get rid of old debts and not to lose their property, people have to either take new loans, or address dubious financial institutions, or sell the things that could cover at least some of the costs. But they could have avoided taking loans. They could have borrowed money from friends or acquaintances and saved their own money. Wise women do it, believe us.
Miss a good opportunity
Psychologists say that there is a moment in the life of absolutely every person when a real chance appeared, but only a few people could fully use it. Most people simply do not believe their happiness and do not accept gifts of fate. Some of them are frightened by difficulties, some decide that they are not worthy of this, while others simply pretend that nothing has happened.
Wise women who took advantage of the chance that they once had were able to drastically change themselves and their lives: get a prestigious job, move abroad for permanent residence, have a baby, get their own apartment, start a business, win a million, after all…
Criticize yourself undeservedly and never believe in yourself
For some reason, the majority of girls and women do not believe that they can be interesting interlocutors or that they are so attractive that handsome men dream of dating them. Apparently, lack of love and care in childhood, when the parents did not cherish their kid and did not tell her that she was beautiful, had an effect.
In the end, these girls grew up with full confidence that they are not pretty, so they think they have nothing in common with recognized beauties and cannot hope for a good match. Wise women do not do that. They know their own worth and are confident of their being irresistible. Therefore, they have no time to be engaged in self-criticism or worry about another failure. Instead, they will come up with something that will help them turn any situation to their advantage.