It often happens that the best friend makes a married man move away from his family, and this relationship turns out to be unexpected for the wife. How to avoid such an unpleasant surprise and, most importantly, how can you recognize a potential rival in your BFF?
She constantly improves something in herself
One is unlikely to argue with the statement that it is a betrayal to make another man quit his family. The ladies who are capable of such an action usually look great on the outside and behave as if they were the center of everything. But at the same time, such persons are very insecure and suffer from a variety of complexes (that is why they regularly improve something in their appearance, be it breast augmentation or hair and eyelashes extension).
They find other people’s approval very important, especially if it is said by your partner. By doing so, she will prove to you (and herself as well) that she is able to seduce any man and enjoy his company until she gets bored. Typically, these women very quickly lose interest in the object of passion and hunt a new “prey”. However, before that, they certainly visit a plastic surgeon/cosmetologist/ makeup artist or stylist and once again “polish” something to their liking.
She stares at your spouse for a long time and quickly drops her eyes when he returns her stare.
This is perhaps the most eloquent sign, clearly indicating that your friend is interested in your partner. She is looking at your man evaluatively. She does not doubt her strength or wonder if you should stand on her way. She assesses how she can hook your man so that he can quickly turn his attention to her.
Therefore, do not blindly rely on her assurance that everything is fine and she will never betray your friendship (it is the opposite thing that happens). Immediately take any measures needed, if you see a similar manifestation of interest regarding your faithful husband. Psychologists claim that you need to protect your love and your feelings and never give up ahead of time.
She almost never uses facial expressions and gestures.
Usually, the women who are able to steal a man from the family (or from a relationship) are very scarce with emotions. They smile in a very conservative manner, do not allow themselves extra mimicry and remain cool and composed even during the hottest dispute.
By the way, this does not go to prove that they are calm and able to control themselves no matter what happens. On the contrary, this indicates a deep psychological trauma – the woman does her best to hide her inner pain. In particular, she falls for other men, if she suffered some kind of rejection in her youth or was constantly reminded that she was not cute enough and would not succeed with the stronger sex. As a result, such a person decides to take revenge on everyone, proving that she could get absolutely any man, even if she has to spoil her relationship with her BFF.
She is flirting desperately and calls it “a friendly chat”
Sometimes it’s enough just to watch the behavior of your man and your BFF to understand that “something’s wrong there.” If this is really a manifestation of purely friendly feelings, you must not worry about your relationship. But according to experts, it is often friendship that becomes the basis of a stronger union. Who knows when a spark of passion will appear between your two close people (do not think that this may never happen).
Therefore, just be alert and prevent any frivolous behavior on the part of your friend (at the same time, you need to remind her that you will not tolerate such treatment, no matter what exactly she means).
She is interested in the smallest details of your relationship.
She does not want to sympathize with you or offer any real help. Your friend is trying to find out as much information as possible in order to use it for her intended purpose, and at the same time understand what mistakes she should not make when communicating with your partner.
The tip is actually very simple here: try not to discuss your personal life with her. You will also need some general phrases saying that everything is fine and you can handle the difficulties yourself. Remember that in most cases it is better to seek advice from an expert and get truly qualified assistance than to personally push your partner into the arms of another woman, even if she is your best friend. Unfortunately, in most cases, this is exactly what happens.
She tells your man about your failures and secrets.
Instead of taking your side and carefully keeping the information that you accidentally (or intentionally) told her, your BFF begins to plan violent actions. She sincerely believes that a man should know everything about his devoted wife and begins to tell him everything, including the information that was not intended for him.
At the same time, she tearfully asks your forgiveness for having accidentally said too much, and she still continues her attempts to help your partner “see the truth”. Psychologists say that your friend’s repentance is worthless in this case. She is thus trying to present you in the most unfavorable light in front of a man and shows that she would never be able to do something like that. If you do not promptly respond to such a provocation, you will very soon lose both your friend and your partner.