If we consider how many subjects husbands and wives would rather shun, they could make a long list. While two people live together, they can discuss meals, movies, and arrangements for parties freely – yet topics keep springing up that spouses feel could make their lives skating on thin ice. Men know the main danger topics fairly well; they are taught early in the day what issues had better be left unbroached, like you won’t want to inquire of your girlfriend or wife whether she looked a bit plumper this time or maybe you are mistaken?
These things are generally common knowledge among men, but men don’t always get to thinking that women know their boundaries too and respect their right to stay calm. True, men tend to feel more thick-skinned about delicate subjects, yet it doesn’t mean they don’t have the issues that they secretly hope will remain unexplored.
But why not probe gently the sore spots now that they won’t be so sensitive to touch? Let’s lift the lid and take a look to see whether all these questions are as monstrous as we are accustomed to believing most secrets are? Not all, of course, probably 15 will be enough for starters. So, male subjects that couples hardly ever come round to discussing are…
The exciting maneuvers in the men’s restroom
This goes to categorize in all kinds of questions related to men’s everyday handling of their precious Mr. Johnson – a topic that titillates most women. They get interested in the intricacies of this interrelation – as well as men’s accounts of how it is different from one male to another. The saddest part is men don’t usually have enough interesting information about that: while in the restroom men are not expected to watch their pissing fellows’ techniques, but look at the wall steadily paying no attention to what is going on around them. This is not considered to make a decent conversational topic, and gents will go far to circumvent such kinds of questions. So, if your girls are sooo interested in it, address Google and have it out with it rather than torment your important male with the unwelcome topic.
Does it make them sad to see their woman cry?
There’s no denying that it is inherent in the female nature to get emotional and burst into tears now and again. Additionally, it is quite pleasant if their husbands or boyfriends are around to participate in the outburst. There are reasons and reasons why a lady should drown the place in her tears on some day that proved too much for her, and if the man is there with her the burning question is whether he really sympathizes. Well, there is no straightforward reply to this question. Men could not very well be expected to sympathize and feel sorry for their ladies if they can’t understand the origin of the emotion. Most women can be sure that their tears make the man upset – but expecting too much sadness and even reciprocated tearfulness would be an almost certain mistake.
They must be always ready for the question about how women look
Boyfriends and husbands should really be prepared for that sort of thing descending on them with tiresome regularity. They know that they ought to come up with a bright and positive reply. At least the woman is expecting – no, relying upon them for this trifling favor. Yet there are some women who don’t want to be dealt a standing answer but are genuinely interested in the way they look. On the one hand, they do want to know, on the other hand, they don’t like to press for an open-hearted answer because should it happen to be anything than marvelous, males can be in for a really big thing! Then, men are apt to ask the same question, upon which they receive an honest opinion on the matter. That is too bad once we begin to contemplate on the difference of treatment… But we believe that both parties have accepted these rules and are happy with them, after all.
Do they find some other woman attractive?
However secure a relationship can seem, it can be riddled with insecurity on the inside. With so many people around, chances of your man getting attracted to another woman can be quite big. Sometimes women feel like asking this question in all seriousness, but on second thoughts, they realize they are too afraid of the answer they may hear. Of course, all people who have steady relationships may find somebody else attractive; the point is whether this attraction begins to haunt them, and they can’t get it out of their heads – and hearts. Chances are men themselves are not too eager to know the truthful answer to this question – then what could we expect from women? They want to know and not to know at the same time. So, the question remains unasked and avoided carefully. Now and again it can be brought up… Then it is better to give an honest reply – it can be only healthier for the relationship.
Do men feel excitement when they get a call from their beloved woman?
How can we not to use telephones when we have them so handy? It is not everyone that loves to talk over the phone, but there are enough people who do. The wife calling her hubby to have a nice cozy chat about nothing, in particular, is not something unheard-of. Now the fact is men are rarely so fond of long talks on the phone – they often play along for peace and they believe in keeping women happy. Yes, it’s nice to hear the voice of the most wonderful woman in the world when you pick up the phone, but the excitement can fade away soon as the conversation begins to meander off somewhere just for the sake of talking. Ladies, don’t forget that you are loved not quite for your conversational abilities on the phone – your man would like a different way of being together.
What about another baby?
This one is quite a justified question that can draw different answers from the man in the family. Yet it can be pretty fearful to put it – because you can’t really know what the answer will be. The thing is, if this question occurred to the woman, it is highly probable that she is keeping the idea of begetting another child in mind. In this case, she would be hoping that her spouse will be sharing her desires. What if her hopes would be dashed? The issue can become a source of quarrels, dissatisfaction, disappointment. After a while, the woman is sure to brace herself and bring the subject up, but she will be highly sensitive on the topic, half expecting trouble maybe.
Is he still in love with me?
A major question, both in terms of importance and the degree of fearsomeness. Actually, it can be a secret terror for men just as it is for women – both spouses can be mortally afraid of the answers and what they can lead to. Nobody will know how to react if they got to hear “no” for the answer. Suppose the flames have died; still, a lot of couples will be satisfied with going on wearily losing what is left of their communication instead of clearing up the frightening issue. Chances run high that this question will be often thought of but never asked. Maybe if the couple steeled themselves, avoided overreacting and were able to discuss the ramifications openly, it could clear the atmosphere and got them prepared for possible attempts to rekindle the relationship – or to go separate ways. In any case, there is no decent future life without first getting an openhanded answer to this question.
It would be so nice if he could earn more money
Traditionally the role of the breadwinner of the family lies with the man, whether we like it or not. The fact is, not all the guys can make loads of money, and it provides a perennial arguing point in a lot of families. Knowing that it is a sensitive topic, wives feel uncomfortable when they want to bring up the question of a higher income for the family. What should he do? Search for a better-paid job? Get at his boss to give him a raise? Whatever way you could suggest, they all imply that the man isn’t doing his best, and can be regarded as an inferior creature. There’s no man who can take this idea with good grace. So, the woman of the house is torn between getting by on a low income and enraging her spouse through saying he isn’t trying enough. This one can bring down the strongest of relationships.
How his relationship with the woman’s parents can be made better?
It is not a significant issue if the wife and her parents aren’t very close and choose to meet at long intervals, but for those who maintain a loving relationship with their mom and dad, probably the greatest wish in their lives would be that their husbands share their feelings. Many of them are happy to make out as if it were really so and their husband adores their parents. Because if they start asking questions… But they won’t – they are much too afraid to learn the truth. If they come to know that the husband isn’t really into her parents, some of the women will have to deal with an inner conflict. Yet, it doesn’t – or shouldn’t – matter that much: your marriage is for you only, and if you are happy, don’t let this issue influence you.
What if he finds his woman less winsome than before?
Just as much as the woman would like to know she is looking dazzling, she is haunted by the question of whether she retained the charms that first drew the man to her. While the question comes to the tip of the tongue, common sense whispers that the reply would almost certainly be in the negative. A considerate partner is sure to say “No, honey, you have grown even more attractive,” but still the fear of hearing unwelcome truths is strong upon her. Women want to be stunning always, both for their own self-esteem and for their partners’ sake. Of course, it is not one of those questions one will have to ask sooner or later – you can just swallow it when it comes up, and bear in mind that if your relationship is going strong, it doesn’t really matter.
Sometimes women would like to travel on their own
It isn’t that wives and husbands grow tired of each other, but with the passing of time, they find they don’t need to live in each other’s pockets. Why not strike out on one’s own for a while? A woman may want to spend some time with her parents, friends or by herself. Yet, going away on a leisure trip leaving the husband behind may be a sensitive subject to bring up. How will he take it? What if he takes offense or flares up? It could be very awkward if he chose to misinterpret the request. It could – but if you sit down and think, you are both grown up people, you have your rights, and the conversation may come off not so difficult as you have brought yourself to believe.
Now, what if he cheated stealthily?
Once this question has taken root in the mind of a husband or a wife, a boyfriend or a girlfriend alike, it is extremely difficult to get it out. You can’t just go and ask it, yet you can’t get it out of your system completely. Then again, if you have braced yourself, asked it and got an answer, you won’t rest satisfied: did he tell the truth? Or if you heard that his past isn’t so spotless, you will have to deal with it and think about how you are going to handle it. But if you feel the issue is important for the health of your relationship, maybe it would be better to have such a conversation after all. Husbands may feel the same, too. What’s more, facing this issue can go towards saving your union in certain cases.
What is it that sets him aflame?
Some women may know the answer to this question perfectly well, but others are not sure about it, and the mystery of how their husbands get the heat for them demands a solution. Although for many people this question is of primary importance, actually few married couples get round to discussing it in detail. Yet the issue is subtle and can be surprising. Yet talking over such matters can lead to the conclusion that there is some kind of physical incompatibility within the couple – and that will chafe! Although wives try not to raise the question, it is a significant one for a healthy relationship and can be discussed with mutual pleasure and benefit one you’ve overgrown your timidity.
What about the possibility of being attracted to men?
Another topic that shows a great gender variety is that of appearances. Women find it agreeable to discuss at length other women, their advantageous and disadvantageous points, and derive a lot of pleasure from it; men, on the other hand, are apt to feel insecure and avoid such topics. Meanwhile, oftentimes wives are dying to know if they ever felt attracted to another man. Again, will they tell the truth, or will they own up to being… well, not quite straight? And what next? So the question remains unasked. On their part, men usually find it in them to ask such a question (thereby giving themselves away, as likely as not?). Nevertheless, guys are freer with questioning, generally.
The will topic, maybe it’s better to give up on it?
The medical emergency is a subject that keeps cropping up time and time again, and it sets some people thinking about living wills. They are actually indispensable things should one become unconscious and therefore unable to make decisions about one’s health and treatment. Yet this subject is usually shunned by husbands and wives alike. It is understandable, for who can be fond of initiating a conversation beginning with phrases like: “Now, about pulling out the plug, do you think I can do it after…” and so on. These kinds of things make a person feel out of control of their destiny and they are highly unsavory topics altogether to be brought up easily. If we are to take life seriously, they must be discussed and some decisions must be arrived at, although it will certainly be to no-one’s pleasure.